Dating has become extremely hard these days, especially in a social media society. It seems like people are more interested in taking “me and the bae” pics for Instagram rather than spend quality time and getting to know their potential sweet thing. Let’s not forget that flirting and giving someone a compliment these days is considered “thirsty. Ladies and gentlemen, heteros and homos, or whatever you are calling yourselves this year, are some of the ugly truths of dating in the modern world.
According to an article published on Thought.com, the writer compiled a list of eighteen ugly truths of modern dating. After reading this article, the author was right on point with his countdown #youdidthat. I’m not going to share all eighteen, however I’m going to share a few and provide you with my insight.
1. The person who cares less has all the power. Nobody wants to be the one who’s more interested. In other words, the more you act like you don’t give a fuck, the more the other person will be into you.
2. Because we want to show how cavalier and blasé we can be to the other person, little psychological games like ‘Intentionally Take Hours Or Days To Text Back’ will happen. Remember this children, everyone plays games especially when it comes to dating. However, it is up to you if you want to achieve a victory or forfeit.
3 . When dating, instead of expressing how they feel directly to you, a person is more likely to post a Facebook status or Instagram a Tumblr-esque photo of a sunset with a quote or song lyric of someone else’s words on it, and while it may not mention your name, it’s blatantly directed at you. Subliminal messages much. Unfriend your mate immediately.
4. “Let’s chill” & “Wanna hang out?” are vague phrases that likely mean “let’s hookup” — and while you probably hate receiving them, they’re the common way to invite someone to spend time these days, and appear to be here to stay. This is one is self-explanatory.
5. So many people are scared of commitment and being official that they’ll remain in a label-free relationship, which blurs lines and only works until it doesn’t. I’ve said it many times before, I’ll say it again – “we’re just talking” is opening the door for cheating that technically wasn’t cheating because, hey, you weren’t together together. I’m guilty of this one myself. From my personal experience, the “boyfriend” title kills the whole fun aspect of the relationship because most people forget about that one word in the title, “friend.”
6. Social media creates new temptations and opportunities to cheat. The private messaging and options for subtle flirtation (e.g. liking of pictures) aren’t an excuse or validation for cheating, but they certainly increase the chances of it happening. My theory: if a person, place, thing, or idea can cause your relationship to end, you never had a relationship in the first place. Insecurities was the bitch who broke ya’ll up and if you decide to get involved with someone else, you need to check that bitch immediately.
Dating and getting to know someone should be fun. It shouldn’t feel like a stressful job or applying for bank loan. If people would learn how to be “social” without the social media, dating would be a piece of cake and everyone enjoys cake.
What are your thoughts on the modern dating game? Share your thoughts below.