Before I get to the question and answer segment of this post, I am so excited to finally start my advice column, Yo Jimmie, Fix My Life. I know what you’re saying, “What makes you an expert on giving an advice?” I wouldn’t say an expert per se, but I am a life coach in the making plus I’ve been told by friends, acquaintances, and including my mother that I give excellent advice. So if you any questions about anything, send me an email at jimmievalentino@gmail.com, with the subject line of “Yo Jimmie”. Of course, you will remain anonymous. Here’s my first letter.
Yo Jimmie:
I’ve been kickin it with this guy for two months and I’m starting to fall in love with dude. He’s an extremely nice guy and he’s been one of the best guys I’ve dated in along time. The only issue is, he used to do gay porn. Although its been three years since he stopped doing porn, apart of me is still nervous about dating him because of his past. What are your thoughts? Should I give him a chance or nah? -I’m In Love with a Porn Star.
Yo I’m In Love with a Porn Star,
I say give ole boy a chance but its some things you need to know before you get in involved in this relationship. First thing, you have learn how to be secure with yourself and your relationship because everyone and their grandmother is going to come for you about your boo being in porn. Keep in mind, these will be the same bastards who are jealous that you are sexing their fantasy and they have to masturbate thinking about it.
Speaking of fantasy, get to know him as a person and not a fantasy. What he did in the videos were fantasy, so don’t judge him based on what he did on screen. Based on conversations that I’ve had with former porn actors, dating is difficult for them because potentials only view them as sex whores as they are portrayed on screen, not the actual person. They all want someone to accept them for who they are, not what they do or did in the past.
Finally, communicate your concerns to him. If you’re concern about his sexual health due to his past, discuss it with him and even suggest getting test together. If curiosity is getting to you like a mofo(and if you haven’t MyVidstered him already because my nosy ass would’ve), ask him to show you his work and go from there. My philosophy is if you cannot handle the past, you’re not ready for the present, and there is no need to plan the future. Good luck to you.
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